Ask Amanda

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  Ask Amanda: How Can I Afford to Leave?

  Survivor in an isolated area is looking for ideas to fund her escape | Q: I have been trying to leave my abusive husband for quite some time now. He is always ten step... read more

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  Ask Amanda: I Can't Buy Necessities During Quarantine

  Due to her husband’s financial control, a survivor is running out of food and cleaning supplies, and beginning to panic | Q: My husband controls our bank account—I can... read more

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  Ask Amanda: I Feel Guilty for Putting Him Away

  Her abusive partner’s in jail, so why does she feel bad for him? | Q: My ex-boyfriend was put in jail because he missed his court date regarding criminal charges he wa... read more

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  Ask Amanda: The Quarantine is Triggering

  For those forced into isolation before by an abuser, the COVID-19 quarantine can bring up bad memories | Q: I escaped a marriage some time ago to a partner who was abu... read more

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  Ask Amanda: He's Threatening to Call CPS

  Pregnant and afraid, her husband’s threats are a form of emotional abuse | Q: Hi, I'm 19 years old and I've been married since 2018. My husband has been threatening to... read more

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  Ask Amanda: Why Do I Keep Giving Him Another Chance?

  Trauma bonding is why some survivors feel an attachment to an abusive partner | Q: I’m one of those people who keeps giving my boyfriend endless chances. I don’t want ... read more

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  Ask Amanda: Uneasy About Going to Shelter

  It’s often the last resort for survivors, and that’s OK | Q: My daughter is in a horrible domestic abusive relationship. She tried to leave the other night with the ch... read more

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  Ask Amanda: I Need to Get My Daughter Out

  “It’s like someone is ripping a piece from me,” says a desperate mom all the way in South Africa | Q: I’m in Western Cape [Africa]. I need to get my daughter to talk t... read more

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  Ask Amanda: Single Mom Desperately Needs a Car

  Grants that help survivors buy a car, and how to find a reliable used one | Q: Is there help out there for a single mom in a shelter to buy a car? I have a part-time j... read more

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  Ask Amanda: Why Do I Feel So Tired All the Time?

  During or after trauma, one of the defining symptoms can be exhaustion | Q: “I am so ridiculously tired all the time. I was with an abuser for four years—physical, emo... read more

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  Ask Amanda: My Cousin is Missing

  She said she went to a shelter, but doesn’t know where she is | Q: My cousin has been missing since Friday night following a fight with her husband in front of her chi... read more

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  Ask Amanda: The Courts Aren't Keeping My Friend Safe

  If the courts won’t listen to protection order violations, what are your options? | Q: Hello, I have a friend who recently got a protection order against her abusive e... read more

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  Ask Amanda: How Do I Become a Survivor Advocate?

  You can find an abundance of online training options to become proficient in domestic violence | Q: I’m not a survivor of domestic violence, but I’ve supported several... read more

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  Ask Amanda: Getting Through Father's Day After Abuse

  For some survivors of domestic violence, this holiday to celebrate men can be triggering | Q: This will be the first Father’s Day since divorcing my abusive ex-husband... read more

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  Ask Amanda: I Fear For My Grandchildren's Lives

  The cycle of abuse is continuing from father to son | Q: I have two grandchildren, ages 2 and 4. I’m afraid they’re being verbally abused by their father, my son, who ... read more