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  Ask Amanda: Why Do I Keep Giving Him Another Chance?

  Trauma bonding is why some survivors feel an attachment to an abusive partner | Q: I’m one of those people who keeps giving my boyfriend endless chances. I don’t want ... read more

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  Ask Amanda: Uneasy About Going to Shelter

  It’s often the last resort for survivors, and that’s OK | Q: My daughter is in a horrible domestic abusive relationship. She tried to leave the other night with the ch... read more

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  Ask Amanda: I Need to Get My Daughter Out

  “It’s like someone is ripping a piece from me,” says a desperate mom all the way in South Africa | Q: I’m in Western Cape [Africa]. I need to get my daughter to talk t... read more

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  Ask Amanda: Single Mom Desperately Needs a Car

  Grants that help survivors buy a car, and how to find a reliable used one | Q: Is there help out there for a single mom in a shelter to buy a car? I have a part-time j... read more

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  Ask Amanda: Why Do I Feel So Tired All the Time?

  During or after trauma, one of the defining symptoms can be exhaustion | Q: “I am so ridiculously tired all the time. I was with an abuser for four years—physical, emo... read more

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  Ask Amanda: My Cousin is Missing

  She said she went to a shelter, but doesn’t know where she is | Q: My cousin has been missing since Friday night following a fight with her husband in front of her chi... read more

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  Ask Amanda: The Courts Aren't Keeping My Friend Safe

  If the courts won’t listen to protection order violations, what are your options? | Q: Hello, I have a friend who recently got a protection order against her abusive e... read more

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  Ask Amanda: How Do I Become a Survivor Advocate?

  You can find an abundance of online training options to become proficient in domestic violence | Q: I’m not a survivor of domestic violence, but I’ve supported several... read more

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  Ask Amanda: Getting Through Father's Day After Abuse

  For some survivors of domestic violence, this holiday to celebrate men can be triggering | Q: This will be the first Father’s Day since divorcing my abusive ex-husband... read more

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  Ask Amanda: I Fear For My Grandchildren's Lives

  The cycle of abuse is continuing from father to son | Q: I have two grandchildren, ages 2 and 4. I’m afraid they’re being verbally abused by their father, my son, who ... read more

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  Ask Amanda: What if Your Landlord is Abusive?

  No one deserves to live in a stressful, threatening environment | Q: Hello. I'm a 60-year-old woman with multiple sclerosis. My landlord has been terrorizing me. He re... read more

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  Ask Amanda: Does Having Money Keep You Safe from Abusers?

  You can probably guess the answer to this one. A Silicon Valley advocate weighs in | Q: There’s a stereotype that domestic violence primarily affects lower income indi... read more

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  Ask Amanda: Is It Ever Safe to Go Back?

  An abuser promises things will be different this time. Can this ever be true? | Q: My ex who abused me wants me to come back. He promised things are going to be differ... read more

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  Ask Amanda: Are We Ready to Adopt a Pet?

  Survivor mom wonders if six months after abuse is too soon to adopt a pet | Q: I left an abusive husband six months ago and moved into a fairly small apartment. I’m so... read more

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  Ask Amanda: Dealing with Toxic Family Members

  It's hard to understand why those closest to you wouldn't believe you were abused | Q: Some of my closest family members aren’t supportive of me leaving my abu... read more