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You Can Stop Apologizing Now

What it means when you can't stop saying ‘I’m sorry’ after escaping abuse | Heartfelt apologies can go a long way. “I’m sorry what I said hurt your feelings.” ... read more
The One Truth to Know

How to let go of the guilt you've been carrying since childhood | "The worst guilt to accept is an undeserved guilt." - Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged If you grew... read more
Ask Amanda: How Do I Get Therapy if I Can't Afford It?

Ideas on getting help even when financial resources are limited | Q: I was the victim of domestic violence two years ago. I know I need therapy to help deal with th... read more
How Trauma Rewires the Brain

Survivors of abuse can be prone to extreme ‘flight or fight’ responses | Our brains are mysterious and complex organs, made up of billions of neurons. They control ... read more
Ask Amanda: How Do I Co-Parent with an Abuser?

Ideas to help ease the stress and anxiety | Q: How do I co-parent with an abuser? It’s causing me anxiety and panic attacks. – Theresa B. A: Co-parenting can b... read more
Recovery After a Controlling Relationship

From fear and despair towards happy in eight steps | It takes a long time to recover from an abusive and controlling relationship. Being monitored, isolated, stalked ... read more
How to Hide Your Address

Shielding your home address from your abuser is possible with a program available in 39 states | In the Information Age, almost anyone can be a private investigator, ... read more
Starting a New Relationship After Abuse

Four steps to consider before dating again | It is not uncommon for domestic violence survivors to feel hesitant, skeptical or cautious about establishing new intim... read more
Strangulation Can Leave Long-Lasting Injuries

One of the most lethal abuser tactics explained | The power of controlling a victim’s next breath makes strangulation a frequent tactic for abusers. It can t... read more
How Do You Find Safe People?

Looking for these three qualities will start you off on the right foot | After escaping abuse, finding a person who makes you feel safe can be like a breath of fres... read more
Speaking Out

Four steps to becoming an advocate for domestic violence survivors | You’ve survived a waking nightmare. And now that you’ve emerged a free person, you have a desir... read more
Why No One Googles "Children and Domestic Violence"

Kids not witnesses, they are victims we don't talk about | I grew up living with domestic violence. So did my mom. So did her mom. So did 40 million other adult... read more
Threatened Not to Testify

When abusers threaten survivors from telling their account in court, it’s considered witness tampering | Batterers are not always career criminals like the drug dea... read more
Could Adopting a Pet Help You Heal?

When, what and why to adopt | There are many things we’re advised to do for the betterment of our health – eat more kale, start jogging, go to bed earlier, drink wat... read more
Should You Change Your Social Security Number?

A social security attorney explains the pros and cons | Starting your life over after domestic violence is not a simple task. If your abuser isn’t behind bars, many... read more