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Ask Amanda: I Feel Sorry For My Abuser. Am I Crazy?

Survivors can cycle through many emotions after leaving an abuser, even sympathy | Q: I was married 12 years [to an abuser], together 5, so total 17 years. I'm stil... read more
The Power of Probation

How probation officers can help protect survivors from re-abuse | You’ve been abused and terrorized, and then you relived every dreadful second again and again in r... read more
5 At-Home Healing Techniques

Combating the after-effects of trauma without leaving your house | Ruth Jewell escaped domestic violence more than three decades ago, but she still feels the effect... read more
App Review: For Coeds and Cadets

The pros and cons of two new apps aimed to help keep you safe | It’s women between the ages of 20 and 24 who are most likely to be abused by an intimate partner. An... read more
Who Pays for Damages?

Here’s what to do when you want to keep your housing, but your abuser left behind damages | Your abusive partner is gone—and you’re ready to get on with your life. ... read more
'I Went Back'

Why some survivors return and what happens next | In an anonymous survey on DomesticShelters.org, more than 40 percent of the 366 responders said they chose to retu... read more
An Investment in Independence

The Women’s Independence Scholarship Program helps survivors find success through education | Money can’t buy happiness. But when generous financial assistance come... read more
6 Tips for Facing An Abuser in Court

Creating a safety plan for this instance may help alleviate fear | Leaving an abusive partner is often not the last time a survivor is going to see him or her. When... read more
Living Through Extreme Stalking

A survivor of a relentless stalker shares four things she did, and continues to do, while being stalked by her ex | At one point during Mike Bonert’s stalking of Vi... read more
Will My Partner Be Violent After I Leave?

How to predict violence after leaving an abuser | We know that leaving is the most dangerous time for a domestic violence survivor. Abusers often lash out in an att... read more
The SAFE Child Act

What this proposed legislation means to protective parents fighting for custody | For all those frustrated parents currently battling their abusive exes in court fo... read more
Finding Your Financial Footing After Abuse

When the abuser controls your money, it can feel impossible to start over | Do you think romance or red flag when a potential mate tells you, “You don’t need to get... read more
Free Tax Prep for Survivors

Resources available to help survivors get money matters in order by April | After leaving a partner, abusive or not, you may find yourself facing financial hurdles ... read more
Tapping Out of Trauma

How thought field therapy can reduce fear and anxiety in survivors | Being a survivor of domestic violence is an emotional business. Whether you’re still being abus... read more
Modifying Memories

A therapy called EMDR can help reprogram how you remember trauma | It sounds like something out of a futuristic sci-fi movie, but reprogramming your brain to proces... read more