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Modifying Memories

A therapy called EMDR can help reprogram how you remember trauma | It sounds like something out of a futuristic sci-fi movie, but reprogramming your brain to proces... read more
Stay Safe: Know When Your Abuser Gets Out

Sign up for victim notifications so you can be prepared for when your abuser is let out of prison | Like many other survivors of domestic violence, ... read more
Online Virtual Therapy

We try out two Internet therapy sites to see if they really do have healing powers | Talking through trauma with a therapist is something survivors of domestic viol... read more
Finding Financial Independence After Abuse

Free courses teach financial literacy | When an abuser controls a couple’s money, survivors often feel trapped indefinitely. Making their victims financially depend... read more
Starting Fresh With a Career Swap

Now’s the time to follow your dreams and go for a job you want | Domestic violence can complicate every aspect of a survivor’s life, including their professional tr... read more
You Can Stop Apologizing Now

What it means when you can't stop saying ‘I’m sorry’ after escaping abuse | Heartfelt apologies can go a long way. “I’m sorry what I said hurt your feelings.” ... read more
The One Truth to Know

How to let go of the guilt you've been carrying since childhood | "The worst guilt to accept is an undeserved guilt." - Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged If you grew... read more
Ask Amanda: How Do I Get Therapy if I Can't Afford It?

Ideas on getting help even when financial resources are limited | Q: I was the victim of domestic violence two years ago. I know I need therapy to help deal with th... read more
How Trauma Rewires the Brain

Survivors of abuse can be prone to extreme ‘flight or fight’ responses | Our brains are mysterious and complex organs, made up of billions of neurons. They control ... read more
Ask Amanda: How Do I Co-Parent with an Abuser?

Ideas to help ease the stress and anxiety | Q: How do I co-parent with an abuser? It’s causing me anxiety and panic attacks. – Theresa B. A: Co-parenting ... read more
Recovery After a Controlling Relationship

From fear and despair towards happy in eight steps | It takes a long time to recover from an abusive and controlling relationship. Being monitored, isolated, stalked ... read more
How to Hide Your Address

Shielding your home address from your abuser is possible with a program available in 38 states | In the Information Age, almost anyone can be a private investigator, ... read more
Starting a New Relationship After Abuse

Four steps to consider before dating again | It is not uncommon for domestic violence survivors to feel hesitant, skeptical or cautious about establishing new intim... read more
Strangulation Can Leave Long-Lasting Injuries

One of the most lethal abuser tactics explained | The power of controlling a victim’s next breath makes strangulation a frequent tactic for abusers. It can take ... read more
How Do You Find Safe People?

Looking for these three qualities will start you off on the right foot | After escaping abuse, finding a person who makes you feel safe can be like a breath of fres... read more