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Living Through Extreme Stalking

A survivor of a relentless stalker shares four things she did, and continues to do, while being stalked by her ex | At one point during Mike Bonert’s stalking of Vi... read more
Will My Partner Be Violent After I Leave?

How to predict violence after leaving an abuser | We know that leaving is the most dangerous time for a domestic violence survivor. Abusers often lash out in an att... read more
The SAFE Child Act

What this proposed legislation means to protective parents fighting for custody | For all those frustrated parents currently battling their abusive exes in court fo... read more
Finding Your Financial Footing After Abuse

When the abuser controls your money, it can feel impossible to start over | Do you think romance or red flag when a potential mate tells you, “You don’t need to get... read more
Free Tax Prep for Survivors

Resources available to help survivors get money matters in order by April | After leaving a partner, abusive or not, you may find yourself facing financial hurdles ... read more
Tapping Out of Trauma

How thought field therapy can reduce fear and anxiety in survivors | Being a survivor of domestic violence is an emotional business. Whether you’re still being abus... read more
Modifying Memories

A therapy called EMDR can help reprogram how you remember trauma | It sounds like something out of a futuristic sci-fi movie, but reprogramming your brain to proces... read more
Stay Safe: Know When Your Abuser Gets Out

Sign up for victim notifications so you can be prepared for when your abuser is let out of prison | Like many other survivors of domestic violence, Mar... read more
Online Virtual Therapy

We try out two Internet therapy sites to see if they really do have healing powers | Talking through trauma with a therapist is something survivors of domestic viol... read more
Finding Financial Independence After Abuse

Free courses teach financial literacy | When an abuser controls a couple’s money, survivors often feel trapped indefinitely. Making their victims financially depend... read more
Starting Fresh With a Career Swap

Now’s the time to follow your dreams and go for a job you want | Domestic violence can complicate every aspect of a survivor’s life, including their professional tr... read more
You Can Stop Apologizing Now

What it means when you can't stop saying ‘I’m sorry’ after escaping abuse | Heartfelt apologies can go a long way. “I’m sorry what I said hurt your feelings.” ... read more
The One Truth to Know

How to let go of the guilt you've been carrying since childhood | "The worst guilt to accept is an undeserved guilt." - Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged If you grew... read more
Ask Amanda: How Do I Get Therapy if I Can't Afford It?

Ideas on getting help even when financial resources are limited | Q: I was the victim of domestic violence two years ago. I know I need therapy to help deal with th... read more
How Trauma Rewires the Brain

Survivors of abuse can be prone to extreme ‘flight or fight’ responses | Our brains are mysterious and complex organs, made up of billions of neurons. They control ... read more